“Our adoption journey has been a really positive experience. There have been times during the 10-month process that have been quite trying, but these have been few in comparison to the happy times. During the adoption process, you are given an opportunity to explore your own experiences and think about how they may affect your parenting in the future. I think this will be really beneficial in the future and will help us to understand our own reactions to our children’s behaviour.
“We found the three-day training really beneficial. It was amazing to meet others in our position and to be able to discuss our hopes and fears for adoption in an open manner, knowing we were understood. The training gave us a chance to identify our fears and discuss ways to deal with them. It also gave us the opportunity to expand our knowledge on therapeutic parenting and the types of things that an adopted child may have experienced. In addition, it gave us tools to work with our adopted children and help them attach successfully, increasing our confidence about the placement. The training was also a lot of fun – we met people that we will keep in touch with following placement who are now friends that really understand the process. The teaching around the effect of trauma to the brain and child development was really helpful as it allowed us to understand why parenting adopted children will be different to raising birth children.
“The happiest moment during the process was receiving the phone call to confirm we had been chosen in the panel selection for our daughter. We really did have our hearts set on becoming her parents and I cried on the phone learning that they agreed it was a good match. When this was later confirmed during the matching panel, it was a feeling of relief, as by this point we felt that we this baby girl should definitely be our daughter.